A Great Sin unless they marry (in image).
Out of Wedlock “misbehaviour” can be forgiven if they marry according to the Controversial Verse below (1 Corinthians 7:36):
King James Bible
But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
The KJV translation is pretty accurate on this one because some translators bias it by adding the word “daughter etc.” which is not found in Verse above as it points between a man and his virgin (that is his girlfriend).
Please take note that the Koine Greek phrase translated as wife is “his woman” or just “woman” (e. g. Same word in 1 Corinthians 7:10 & Matthew 5:28) and similarly, “his virgin” must thus refer to ‘his girlfriend or fiance’.
There are Greek words for father (e. g. Acts 22:1) and daughter (e. g. Acts 7:21) which is NOT used in 1 Corinthians 7:36 proving such context claims to be ‘easily false’.
Warning: If they don’t marry, it is considered fornication (a serious sin).
Generally each sin has its consequences but God can Forgive (His Own Choice Alone) as the case of the adulteress proves (e. g. John 8:1 – 11).
To Forgive and Marry a person like that is not easy though it’s possible by a believer in Christ.
Logic: Restoration toward God’s Will
God’s Will is person A to marry person B.
However, person A and person B fell in sin before they met each other itself. Person A was lucky that he didn’t get anyone pregnant.
Person B wasn’t so lucky as her one time loss of virginity whilst drunk (probably with a little spike drug, unknown to her) allowed Person C to both take her virginity and impregnate her.
Person C wanted to abort the baby (being a doctor). Person B didn’t want to abort the baby since she considers it a sin to do that.
Person B gives birth to a child and separates & hates Person C for the un-manly, not-purely-consensual sex which has occured causing the child to be born prior.
Person B meets Person A and both fall in Love. Person A notes that he can still marry Person B because Person B and C were never married. Biblically, only a divorced person cannot remarry.
Person A realizes that this sin can be forgiven and Person B forgives Person A’s unruly past too.
Person A and Person B realize that they are God’s Will for each other especially due to the Remarkable Match in regards to Desiring God & His Word first and each other’s character being so similar.
So despite the mistakes done & especially that the Devil tried to destroy God’s Will for marriage between Person A and Person B by bringing in Person C earlier via the difficulty of a Child being born & suffering in the midst of these, it’s up to the Decisions of Persons A and B to work it out and live with the consequences of their sins instead of running away from it.
“He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.” (Proverbs 28:13, NASB)
What is the advantage of a repentance that changes both Person A and B?
“let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.” (James 5:20, NASB)
Life goes on.
Blessed be the Name of the Lord for Restoring His Will despite the consequences of our sins.
P/S: An Actual Biblical Example in Principle
Person A = Sarah
Person B = Abraham
Person C = Hagar
Child = Ishmael
The story above is not the actual Bible Story but in Principle, it has some similarities, for example:
Abraham had a child out of wedlock (Ishmael) with Hagar (the maid) out of Sarah’s persuasion.
A Key Difference:
Abraham did this out of wedlock sin “after being married” (and thus in my opinion is worse) as opposed to Person B or A who did it before marriage and before meeting each other.
Please also note that both Abraham (Person B) and Sarah (Person A) did NOT have an obligation to take care of the child (but Person C only – because ‘Person C’ is the root cause of this sin).
Hence, I believe that anything Person A or B does for the child is out of goodwill and NOT obligation (quoting the Biblical example above in Principle) but it is certainly the obligation of Person C in the aforementioned example.
In short, Marriage can be God’s Will but ‘sleeping first with a girl’ is NOT a proof of God’s Will where there is no marriage. Can you see it?
Peace to you