Vanity of vanities! – said the preacher (Ecclesiastes 1:2)

The world “teaches” that:

A lot of men think they are doing women a favor by asking for her hand in marriage, but let’s think about this :

she changes her name,

changes her home,

leaves her family,

moves in with you,

builds a home with you,

gets pregnant for you,

pregnancy changes her body,

she gets fat,

almost gives up in the labor room due to the unbearable pains of child birth,

even the kids she delivers bear your name.

Till the day she dies…everything she does, (cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents,bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you…..sometimes at the cost of her own health , hobbies and beauty.

so who is really doing whom a favor?

Dear men appreciate the women in your lives always, coz it is not easy to be a woman.

*Being a woman is priceless*

Here’s my response to the above:

But the *thing* needed to do all the above is *money* and it has nothing to do with *sacrifice* nor *without strings attached* regardless if you’re a *husband/wife* or *father/mother* simply because you’re doing it *with vested interest* (yourself ultimately; e.g. Children to take care of us when we’re old – old age insurance policy – sexual gratification# – to take care of the richer spouse so that we share in their wealth, having a better life with more luxuries, home, car etc. – take care of your parents & children, your own blood what- and so on…)

The true question is:
Would you do all the above for a *stranger* or a *neighbour* meaning someone with whom you have *no vested interest in* sincerely out of True Love?

If your answer is a ‘yes’, then Lord Jesus is in you!

#sexual gratification in such trophy wife situations as well as marriage of convenience instances is usually one-way; this is due to the fact that sometimes one marries another to obtain richness ignoring the physical attraction part needed for full sexual gratification – a thirst which never gets fulfilled – may often either lead to promiscuity or a “mood-swing” spouse.

Sorry but I don’t do parental worship nor the “eternal love fantasy of Romeo-Juliet” simply because these loves have an end, to this age only.

When you’re resurrected to live in the age to come, there’s no “marriage” as Lord Jesus declared meaning there’s no more “parent/children” nor “husband/wife” based loves anymore.

I believe in Lord Jesus Who alone spoke Truth beyond fantasy, “literally”. 

The fact I present is that human loves are impure due to *vested interest* (or strings/conditions attached) while God’s Love alone is True being Selfless evidenced by His Will to Save the World – Heal all imperfections even in these temporal earthly loves – when One True Love of God remains, Agape as described in 1 Corinthians 13, at the “end”.

I’m not saying that you can’t marry or enjoy those human loves but rather that don’t think too greatly of it nor worship it because it certainly falls short of God’s Love, “Greatly”.